The very delicately written piece by Mary P linked below brings to mind a conversation I had once with a newly-separated woman whose daughter was in the same daycare class as my daughter.
How is it now that W is gone, I asked. More work or less?
Oh, it’s SO MUCH EASIER, she said. Now I just have the two kids, instead of two little kids and one big one.
There’s probably a long German word that describes the state of being simultaneously happy and sad for someone.